Friday, 13 April 2012

Confessions of an online dater..

How much should we trust somebody we don't know?

Now the other day I said that you should give it a go, and i thought wow, i have met someone who really seems decent.
He was so lovely and genuine, like no guy i had ever met before, usually they are straight forward, and make it obvious they want sex. Now this guy, was sly. (rhym ;) We talked every day for 9/10 weeks.. every single day none stop, even when he went to Kuwait for 2 weeks, he mailed me when he got there & i thought, do you know what, this guy isn't like the rest.

After these 9 weeks, we had never spoken on the phone, i decided to ring him on a drunken night and he spent £40 to come in a taxi to my house at 4 in the morning, i thought 'aww that's so nice of him'
I genuinely did think this guy was different.

Now i have been single for 5 years and i find it very hard to commit to anyone, but with this guy, i was considering changing that. I thought he was someone i could finally start a relationship with.
Now everything was fine, up until 2 days after he had stayed at mine (i would like to point out at this point - nothing happened apart from cuddling!) he then started to ignore me.

Now as we had been speaking EVERY day for so long, i thought it was a bit strange, but he then said it was because he had been busy sorting out moving to kuwait, so i thought fair enough, that seems genuine. Up untill today.

My friends rang me and said 'Louisa, i'm not being funny but i'm sure i've just seen that boy you were with, with another girl. He saw me and went bright red, and i know it was him' - Now this girl knew what he looked like because she came to my house when he was here.

I said no, it might just be his sister or a close friend up untill she said 'but they were holding hands over the table' - at this moment, my heart sank and i felt the sudden urge to just laugh. I still couldn't believe them, so they told me to ring him and ring them back, so i did.

He got his phone out of his pocket, looked at it, pressed a button, said something to her, and put it back in his pocked - this must have been true, he didn't answer to me.
So there we have it, said boy has recieved an email telling him that i was stupid to be naive and looks can be decieving, i know why he wasn't talking to me, and told him to have a nice life in Kuwait.

Moral of this story i think - trust nobody. Or atleast don't trust people who seem to be too good to be true, chances are, they probably are! Who was he to try and play me off like that? I personally think i'm worth a lot more, so i will deffinately be more curious and more defensive from now on!

Anyone else had this kind of thing? I don't know how to feel :(

Love Louisa.

19 comments:

  1. Aww hunny :( that must be horrible !! He isnt worth your time and is obviously a prick. Something like this has kind of happened to me but not as bad as this. You deserve someone who will treat you like a princess and he will come along one day :) At the end of the day its his loss not yours! xxx

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    1. It's so annoying, when he came he was so nice & stuff, even my mum liked him, and that's a first for her! It's so confusing because he didn't even try anything sexual, it was like he just wanted to be with me, so why would he pay 40 pounds for it if you know what i mean? Atleast i've found out before he moved so i wasn't going to waste my time going over there haha! xx

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    2. Aww yeah, i know it is! They can be so nice but then they just turn funny with ya. I know what you mean and yeah exactly, oh well plenty more fish in the sea i suppose :p xxx

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    3. Yep indeed, haha how ironic that the website is actually called 'plentyoffish' .. fml -_- haha! xx

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    4. oh was it really, hahaa. Aww well it is right :) xxx

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  2. I've never tried online dating, I have been put off men forever! My cousin found her husband on one though and they are happy. You deserve someone better than that tit. Onwards and upwards my dear!! xxxxx

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    1. Thank you :) wow, i never thought a blog would end up giving me more support than my actual friends! x

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    2. Btw, check my new post, i tagged you x

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  3. That sucks :/ but its for the best, don't want to waste any more time on a loser like that. Move on to better things! x

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    1. Thank you, it means a lot to have support from people that don't even know me! xx

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    2. Btw, check my new post, i tagged you :) x

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  4. Hey i tagged you to do the Blog of Beauty tag, check my blog out to see it http://goldilocksx0.blogspot.co.uk/

    xxx

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  5. So sorry this happened to you. But don't let one lousy guy change how you feel about other guys. BE a little more careful but definitely don't shut yourself from other guys. Who knows, you may find the perfect one.

    All you can do now is move on. He isn't worth it anyway.

    New follower from the blog hop. Hope you visit my blog when you get the chance
    http://myminibag.blogspot.com

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  6. Oh and definitely keep us posted with whats going on.

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  7. Personally I haven't been through this, but I feel so angry for you! You are totally right, you deserve a prince and not a douche bag like him. Such a snake to play you out for so long as well.
    xo

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  8. OMG just went through this like last week. Except I knew the guy for a year and we were like really good friends. You know, boys are so dumb! Good thing I have a heart of steel and can easily hide my emotions in public. Can't say much for when I'm in the privacy of my bedroom and cry my eyes out. Oh well. I like to think that when I'm successful with whatever I decide to do in life, he'll be in the crowd asking for my attention. And you're much better than that guy BTdubs. I mean, you're freaking gorgeous and have amazing style. And you seem really sweet. Anyway I've decided that I shall become a nun. Problems solved!

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    1. That's exactly how i feel :) It's their loss at the end of the day :) & thanks for the compliments, & good luck with the nun thing hahaha! x

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  9. Im having a good read through your blog.. i lovee it :) I like that it's more personal :)
    cant believw what happened..sounds like a lot of guys ive known in the past.. at least you found at who he really was before it went any further.. xx

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